Helping Or Hurting?

Hello WordPress readers. This blog entry is about helping people who need help and enabling people who may not need so much help.

I know as a people we are generally concerned for people, families, friends and even strangers. especially with the Holidays coming up. Most people want to help anyone anytime they can. Some of those people truly need the help too. But there is another side to that.

There are people out there who prey on the feelings of the compassionate people. They tend to make it known to everyone they come into contact with that they are in financial straights. Their rent is due, the car needs inspection, there is no food in the house…

These people glom on others who genuinely want to do the right thing and without proper knowledge of the entire situation give and give and give untill one day they realize that they are being used , taken for granted, in essence scammed.

In my experience it always seems  that the most needy people on this planet would not even think of asking for help, let alone tell everyone they come in contact with about their financial woes. So…when you meet someone and the first thing out of their mouth is telling you how far behind the rent is or the lights are getting cut off, ask your self this.

Do they have internet service? Do they have a J.O.B and if not are they actively seeking employment? How come they have cell phones and no food? Now I am not judging I am being a good steward with my finances. I work hard, I pay my bills and make sure my children come first.

I have had jobs that I did not like and did them anyway to get the bills paid. I struggled through and did not complain to my friends about all of my debt and financial burden. Call me proud and tho it is sin, but asking for help was not on the list for how to pay my own obligations to live on this earth.

We are all held accountable for our actions at the end of it all. God is going to ask if you did all you could do to provide a good life for your children. Did you teach them about Him and did you teach them how to live after they grow up? Did you raise them as productive people in society or did you instead teach them how to take advantage of good people who are only trying to do the right thing.

 If you are considering helping anyone, do a little background check, find out WHO you are giving your money to. Do they really deserve it? Are they trying to help themselves? Seek the Lord for wisdom. Only give when led by the spirit. Do not be an enabler! Be a true help and mentor them on how to live in this world and to stop steeling from their friends.