I just joined a circle of moms. It is a great resource for moms with questions about everyday stuff.
One Mom posted something about her 8yo having to be told several times to do a specific task. I was laughing at some of the responses because most moms did not have an answer only agreeing they too had the same problem.
The good news is when they are 8yo you can still mold them, it may take longer than when they were two or three but with consistency it can be accomplished. I did spank my children, never with my hands “hand are for hugging not for hurting” always with a paddle or switch. This was only used as a form of discipline and not when I was angry. As they grew they knew if they were asked to do something and chose not to then there would be consequences. Having to spank becomes less as they learn.
We can not allow our children to think they have the upper hand because when that happens we lose. Most parents today do not spank for one reason or another. They use reward systems or coupons or some other kind of bribery to get their kids to do things they should do anyway. I think when we do this it only enforces rewards. The children never learn that in the real world most times you do not get rewarded for things you are expected to do. When we do our JOB we get our pay check. If we do our JOB badly we will probably lose it.
As part of the family unit they are expected to do their part. Some parents have their children do small chores at first and work up to washing dishes and mowing grass as they get older the chores are kept age appropriate. A three yo can pick up his/ her own toys and put them away. They can put their dirty cloths in the hamper. As children grow they can feed the animals and take out the trash and so on. If we hold our children accountable we will have a lot less crime. I believe proper morals have a lot to do with how they turn out. I could go on and on about that but I will save it for another blog post.
Any way Parents, the best thing you can do for your children is SAY what you mean and MEAN what you say. TTFN